Often we meet a woman, or even a group of women, who seem to have everything. They are attractive, smart, intelligent and sassy. Which is why it comes as such a shock to discover they have low self-esteem. The exterior is a tour de force presentation of brimming self-confidence and chutzpah.
Over the years I have met and worked with many women like this. I work with them to bring them to the recognition of their true value, the acknowledgement of their achievements and their many talents. Yes, it is all part of a Taking Stock process; it can be challenging, difficult and terrifying, and it’s important to work with someone who understands what you’re going through and can help you reach the other side.
In the meantime, it you’re not ready for that process but would still like to experience better self-esteem, there are a few other things you can do to help yourself.
Make yourself your #1 Priority
Stop thinking about half-full or half-empty glasses of water and think of yourself as a brimming glass of water; full to overflowing. It is a fact that you cannot help others unless you are in this state; which depends on your level of self-esteem!
You must be top of this list when it comes to care. Caring for yourself is not selfish; it’s a necessity if you want to live a productive and rich life commit to 100% self-care and improve your health and happiness level. Why not get a copy of 25 Ways to a Happier Healthier You
Give to yourself constantly so you can give to others endlessly
Cultivate a Healthy Lifestyle
Most of us still live stress-filled lives, despite being told to lower our stress, and even being inundated with many ways in which to do it. When you consider how much disease is related to lifestyle choices, you may begin to understand that stress, exercise, and nutrition are the keys to healthy living. This is a fascinating article from NCBI (The National Centre for Biotechnology Information). Read it … you’ll learn a lot!
Surround yourself with friends and family
These must be people who support you with positive energy; you know how draining it is to spend time with somebody who is negative. There is no excuse for keeping toxic people in your life. It’s important to remember your closest friends (anywhere between 3 and 5) are a mirror of what you think of yourself. Do your closest friends and family have low self-esteem?
The Shameless Art of Saying NO
Learn to say ‘no’. This is difficult for a lot of women; it takes practice to catch yourself in the process of getting ready to say ‘yes’ reflexively. Once you get the hang of it, you’re on your way to learning to say ‘no’; firmly and with no excuses. No requires no explanation.
Change your vocabulary to exclude I Should-a
It just has to go. Along with I Could-a and I Would-a The minute any of these fall out of your mouth, ask yourself why?You don’t need to fill your life with stuff you think you should do or would do or could do. Replace them with I choose to, I chose to, and I will choose. You will be amazed at the difference this makes!
I highly recommend 25 Ways to a Happier Healthier You for helping with stress levels, your health and even your diet. I know I wrote it but these 25 Ways include some excellent techniques to help your self-esteem.
I also recommend Plant Therapy Self-Esteem Essential Oil Blend. If you’re not a big user of Essential Oils, perhaps you can start here; it really works!
Do you have low self-esteem? Do you struggle between you outer persona and the inner petal … unsure and unclear ?